Terms

Last changed 19 September 2026. Pairstead was called Bond until that day — the web address still says bond, and nothing about what happens to your writing changed with the name.

What you can expect from Pairstead, and what it expects from you. It is short because the arrangement is simple: it is free, what you write is yours, and it is run by one person rather than a company.

Making an account means agreeing to what is on this page. If something here does not suit you, the right move is not to make one — and if you already have one, delete it from the bottom of Account, or write to the address at the end of this page and it will be removed.

What this is

Pairstead is one shared home for two people: chores, money, the calendar, the shopping, and a few places to say how things are actually going between you. It is a personal project, offered free.

Every part of it is free and nothing is locked. There is no paid tier today and nothing to buy. If that ever changes, it will be said in the app first, and nothing you have already written will be put behind a payment.

What this is not

It is not therapy, counselling, medical advice or legal advice. Pairstead writes a score and a short reading back to you about how your household is going — that is arithmetic on what the two of you typed in, not an assessment of your relationship, and it is sometimes wrong. The cycle tracker is a calendar with sums on it: it is not contraception and it is not a diagnosis.

If you are frightened of your partner, or you are in crisis, this app is the wrong place to be. Please talk to somebody you trust, or a support line where you live.

Your account

• You need to be at least 16, or older where the law you live under sets a higher age for agreeing to this on your own.
• Give an email address that is really yours.
• If you forget your password, ask for a link from the sign-in screen. Pairstead emails one to the address you signed up with. It works once and only for an hour, and using it signs Pairstead out everywhere else it was signed in. Keep that address reachable — apart from Continue with Google below, it is the only way back into an account.
• Continue with Google is the other way in, and it is the same account either way: press it with an address that already has a Pairstead account and you land in that one, rather than a second one. Google asks for your password on its own page and Pairstead never sees it. An account made that way has no password at all until you set one — and if you ever lose the Google account, asking for a link from the sign-in screen still works and is how you give yourself a password instead.
• One person per account. Pairstead is for two people with an account each — not one login shared between you.
• Only invite somebody into your home who you actually want to see it. The invite code joins them to everything at once, and almost everything in Pairstead is shown to both of you on purpose. The privacy page lists exactly what.

What you write stays yours

Everything the two of you write here belongs to you. Making an account gives Pairstead permission to do one thing with it: store it and show it to the two of you, as the privacy page describes.

That permission covers the ordinary mechanics of running the app — keeping it in the database, keeping backups, and syncing it between your two devices — and nothing else. It is not advertised against, sold, published anywhere, or used by Pairstead to train a model.

The one thing that leaves Pairstead is what you send to the AI suggestions, and only in the moment you ask for one. The privacy page lists exactly what that is and what Google may do with it. If you would rather nothing left, do not use that button.

Delete something and it goes. Delete your account and your side of it goes; the shared home stays if your partner is still in it, because it is as much theirs as yours.

What not to do here

• Do not use Pairstead to monitor, control, frighten or track somebody. It is built for two people who both want it. Using it against the other person is the one thing it is not for.
• Do not put somebody else into it — a partner, a family member, a child — and record things about them that they would object to if they knew.
• Do not use somebody else's account, or try to reach writing that was not meant for you.
• Do not scrape the app, hammer it automatically, or try to knock it over. The rate limit is there for everybody's sake; going around it is going around other people.

It can go wrong

Pairstead is offered as it is. It is one person's work running on rented hosting, and no promise is made that it will be available, that it will not lose something, or that what it works out will be right or useful. It may be interrupted, changed, or — with as much warning as can be given — stopped altogether.

So: do not let Pairstead be the only place something important is written down. Pairstead keeps backups, but they are there to put the whole app back after a failure, not to rescue one thing you deleted. If there is something in here you would be sorry to lose, keep your own copy of it somewhere else.

As far as the law allows, the person running Pairstead is not liable for anything lost through using it. Nothing here takes away a right you have that cannot be signed away.

Ending it

You can stop at any time, without asking anybody. You → Account, at the bottom: it deletes your account and your side of everything in it, for good. If you cannot get in to do that, write to the address below and it is done by hand.

An account can be closed from this end too, for the things under What not to do here — using Pairstead against the other person, or trying to break it for everybody. Where a warning is the fairer answer, that is what happens instead.

Changes to these terms

The date at the top is the last time this page changed. If something changes that actually affects you, it will be said in the app rather than quietly edited in here.

Getting in touch

There is one address, and one person reading it: hello@getpairstead.com.